Here’s a sample list you can use as a woman to find the right man to date and get married to – so you can start and build a strong and healthy marriage.

Dealbreakers (Non‑Negotiables)

1. He’s genuinely saved by Jesus and born again
2. He’s living a daily lifestyle of practical holiness to God: A lifestyle of pleasing God daily. No secret sins, no double life — no porn, no lust, no anger issues, no addictions, no pride, no stubbornness, teachable, honors authority, respects women, has a servant heart, leads with gentleness, fully emotionally disciplined and matured, long-term holiness patterns, stays away from corrupt Western masculinity traits — red pill, ego-driven “alpha male” culture, hyper-independence, materialism, social media addiction, etc., consistent, disciplined, and so on
3. He’s actively plugged in & engaged in a community (ideally in-person) of people who preach and practice a lifestyle of holiness to God
4. He’s mentally and physically prepared for marriage: He has the right mindsets of what builds a strong & healthy marriage; he knows and is fully ready to apply the principles and best practices on how to please his wife.
5. He has a reliable source of income, clear direction, can manage money well, and a track record of effort and discipline
6. He has no unresolved baggage: No hidden past issues, emotional instability, controlling mother, absent father wounds, interfering family, destructive family expectations, or physical/mental conditions that could destabilize the marriage.

Optionals (Nice-to-Haves)

1. Very intelligent and smart, ideally with strong professional competence.
2. Tall, dark, slim-built.
3. Slightly older and more established (late 20s to mid‑30s).
4. Comes from a stable, loving, two‑parent home.

And here’s how to prepare your own list, what to prioritize and what not to focus too much on.